Renee Slansky: Dating and Relationship Coach; Publisher
of The Dating Directory - August 2017
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Man continues to explore the world of relationships
and communication. In this case we explore the always
topical world of dating. Renee helps make sense of
this often misunderstood and sometimes daunting world.
mainly know you from the modelling, fashion and promotions
world, from where you were modelling for campaigns
around Bondi Beach, as well as Inside Sport projects
and the like. How and why did you transition into
becoming a Dating and Relationship Coach?
started a dating and relationship blog 4 years ago
as I was passionate about educating women on how to
find, build and cultivate healthy relationships in
their life. This then grew into the leading dating
and relationship blog in Australia which allowed me
the opportunity to write professional love advice
for some of the largest online dating sites and magazines
in the world. From there I took it one step further
and moved into coaching people privately and now have
an online coaching programme for women. Truth is I
never planned any of it, it was a natural progression
of my passion and turning it into a purpose and business.
do you consider to me your main life and career highlights
my new career, I would have to say having one of my
top articles The 5 Reasons Why You're Still Single
being translated into German for the German Huffington
think also having one of my articles I wrote about
the effects that technology has had on dating, is
now being used as a literary piece to study in a higher
education textbook all over North America!
biggest highlight would have to be, the fact that
I am able to impact women and men all over the world
and change people's lives daily. It's exciting to
go on TV and the radio as a dating expert, but helping
transform lives is what really gets me excited. I
still have so much to achieve so maybe ask this question
again in a year ha!
unique perspective do you bring to the world of dating
and relationship coaching?
mission is for people, especially women to understand
their worth and not settle for an average relationship
either with themselves or with someone else. I am
a very practical teacher and I believe we are the
common denominator in our own lives. That whilst we
create our own problems, we can also be our own solution.
I want to bring about Love Education into schools
and change a generation. Whilst there are influences
in a modern world that can impact our relationships,
I still believe that the foundations to have a healthy
relationships remain the same and that's what I focus
isn't about having a band aid solution on the symptoms
, but rather getting to the root of the cause and
empowering people to overcome their roadblocks and
step up into the best version of themselves so that
they can build an awesome love life.
still are extremely fashion and styling aware. Are
you self taught and styled, or do you get assistance
wow you think so? Haha Glad someone does because I
kind of just wing it and hope that I look ok! I try
to copy what others are doing when it comes to style
whilst still dressing to my own tastes and body shape.
To be honest living overseas and just becoming more
confident in who I am has really helped as well. Sometimes
I get styled for appearances , but most of the time
I pull it together myself and hope it passes!
were involved in sports presenting and sports modelling
sector for many years. Are you still doing projects
in the sector also, or do you just enjoy to keep following
sports when you can?
enjoy playing sport and fitness is a big part of my
life , but I am no longer presenting or working directly
with any sports. I am still TV presenting and have
been for the last 10 years , however now it's moved
into more in line with my dating and relationship
sports are you best at, and who are your favourite
sporting personalities you have met?
like to think that most sports I'm ok at. Although
I love to do free weights, dancing, rock climbing
and anything outdoors or adventurous. I have always
loved hockey and really want to join a team one day!
remember co presenting a TV a show once for One HD
and met some pretty awesome sports personalities including
Libby Tricket and Anthony Minichiello. I have also
met Sonny Bill Williams and some great football legends,
I have kind of lost track of how many I have met,
but they have all been really down to earth.
do you most love about Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week?
loved the creative drama in each show! It's such a
wonderful environment for creativity, passion and
style. It's a big day of shooting , but the energy
and vibe from everyone is so contagious.
have been a few of the best outcomes you have achieved
at The Dating Directory?
guess having the opportunity to write for some of
the largest online dating sites in the world like
Plenty Of Fish, eHarmony , RSVP.com . Plus being able
to share my advice on reputable magazines such as
Your Tango, Huff Post , The Good Men Project and a
few others. But being able to change women's lives
for the better has been so fulfilling.
most of your clients finding you from word of mouth,
the internet, or a balance between both?
a balance , some are through recommendation , especially
my private one-on one clients . But a lot are also
from my blog or through social media and advertising
. It's starting to have a lot of momentum now so I
am finding I have to advertise less.
you have any plans or projects in the works concerning
elements of sports or fashion (other than helping
make sure your clients look good)?
really I have moved out of that industry and more
just indulge in those things for personal enjoyment.
often do your clients or potential clients ask you
for a date, and how do you deal with that, if your
prepared to put that into the public domain?
never actually have any clients ask me out, as I make
it very clear that I am engaged to be married and
also that I am strictly professional. My clients have
a lot of respect for me and my relationship so it's
never an issue. Sure there are men out there who might
contact me pretending to want advice and then hoping
to ask me out, but they get the hint from our first
conversation about where I stand on all that.
do you structure your fees, and gear up your clients
charge an hourly rate based on what I know my services
are worth and also using the industry standard as
a guideline. For my course I offer a few different
is your most concise definition of what is Love?
is a choice, an action, not just a feeling or a word.
television or other media appearances, adding to Media
Man coverage, have you got in the works, and when
should we expect to see you on television next?
have some exciting things in the work but can't reveal
the network as such due to network agreements , but
stay tuned! I also go on Sunrise or The Morning Show
as their go to dating commentator for certain stories.
I do appearances on radio and will be looking to speak
at a few events as well.
us your candid thoughts on dating shows being screened
on Australian television such as The Bachelor and
ironic, on one hand I'm glad that people are finally
having the conversation about love and dating , yet
on the other hand, it's portrayed in the wrong manner
. Whilst those sort of shows provide great entertainment
, they should never be taken as gospel for how to
find love or build a healthy relationship. I am all
about love education , not glamorising relationships.
there any advice you would get the producers, or the
contestants, and would you be interested to appear
on these shows in any capacity?
guess for the contestants I would suggest asking themselves
what their intentions are and what they hope to achieve.
A lack of direction brings about toxic decisions,
or if they are doing it from the wrong mindset , then
they won't get the outcome they really yearn for.
As for the producers, I know they are there to do
a job, so it's not my place to tell them how to do
it . Their intention is not to really create lasting
marriages, it's to get ratings.
led much of your business to derive from the United
States, and what part of the U.S. do you like the
an expert on Your Tango and writing for overseas magazines
such as The Good Men Project which all have a huge
following . I haven't been to the US yet!
understand you have a book out soon... what's it entitled,
and who will most benefit from it?
called The 5 Reasons Why You're Still Single, which
is based off my top rating article. Perfect for any
woman questioning why they aren't getting breakthrough
in their love life!
the biggest challenges you have overcome?
guess believing in myself and stepping into my authority
I have an incredibly supportive partner and some amazing
people in my world who believe in me so it helps me
overcome my fears of failure.
you finally have time to relax, what do you do for
actually go to the gym to de stress! But I love reading
, writing and listening to music to chill out.
woman finds her strength when she realises her value.
We bet everyone learned something good and usual from
this. Even the more experienced and dating 'savvy'
types. It appears that Renee would be amongst the
very best in her chosen profession and we also wish
her external happiness, learning of her upcoming marriage.
Congrats Renee, and well done on continuing to help
so many people with this important element of their